Every parent must have been angry or upset about the actions of their children. This is natural because each parent has a certain patience limit with the behavior of children. Now, the problem is parents sometimes directly vent their emotions by shouting at children.
According to not a little expert, yelling, shouting, after all using violence is not a wise business to be applied to children. There are still other techniques that can make the child know what the parents mean. Then, how does the method hold back emotions when children do wrong?
In this millennial age where technology and games are rapidly growing, the habit of children in their leisure time is changing. Back then we as children always play together in the outside with our friends by meet face to face. Now, everyone tends to play virtually using their gadget. All games now can be played online, no need wire, like Mobile Legends, PUBG, Fortnite. People can be so carried away when playing games.
WHY DO NOT A FEW PARENTS NOT BE ABLE TO RESIST EMOTION IN CHILDREN?
One of the most persuasive arguments why parents cannot hold their emotions when they do wrong is fear. Yes, anxiety can make parents spontaneously scream or even beat children. For example, when children play water around electrical equipment which is undoubtedly the most dangerous. Already warned many times, but the child did not heed the sayings of his parents until the water almost spilled into the power outlet.
Because most are afraid of the danger of a child being electrocuted (electrocuted), we may also reflexively scream at him to stop playing water.
Usually, the situation of parents who are not in the least minded or heavily stressed can also be among the things that create them cannot hold back emotions in their baby. It’s normal for children to do naughty or work on mistakes. This is because children are learning about behavioral constraints, which parents are allowed and which are prohibited.
THEN, HOW DOES THE TECHNIQUE HOLD BACK EMOTIONS THE CHILD IS DOING WRONG?
- Do we have to be angry?
Often when you are angry for a child, the problem is trivial. So, set the boundaries of which behaviors need to be dealt with firmly and which ones can still be appropriately discussed. Remember, not all child delinquency must be responded to by scolding or punishing the child. That way, we will be calmer in facing the little ones doing.
- When you want to be angry, calm yourself
When you watch your child acting annoyingly, you may become angry, and the end will scream or yell. You can avoid this emotional overflow with so many ways to create as relaxed a person as possible.
The first thing that is easiest to do is by breathing as deep as possible. Pause and repeat many times until our emotions are more stable. Second, you can go away from your little one, for example to the room. If you feel calmer, you can only tell the child to say and give direction not to repeat the behavior explicitly.
- Try counting
Besides giving affirmation to children, counting one to so many can help parents support emotions. For example, “Tidy up your toys now. Mother counts up to ten. If up to ten are not neat, you can’t use this toy anymore. One two…”.
Well, if your child still hasn’t obeyed your orders, try to give a warning again with a firm attitude without shouting or yelling at the child.
- Avoid hitting
Spanking will teach children that hurting others is permissible, and this can lead them to believe that the problem-solving technique is to use violence. So, to discipline children, they should not physically beat or hurt children.
Hitting a child will not make you feel better. Instead of being relieved, you will instead be haunted by guilt and other negative emotions. Moreover, violence can cause children to lose confidence in their parents to the point that they will instead act more naughty.
- Try to control your speech technique
Researchers show that the calmer we talk, the more comfortable you will be to cool your feelings and support your emotions. Conversely, if you use invective words or yell at children, even more, anger rises in you. Try to control our speech techniques as much and as warm as possible. The more often you are trained, you can master yourself and make children understand that their behavior is wrong.